This book is for only one purpose, that I want to see this world a calmer place. The more civilization and technological advancement is prevailing, the more human being is becoming perverted. And more emotional problems are happening to humans. I am able to see drastic change in human beings at both society and individual levels. This change of emotional instability is increasing the danger for humans to be more violent and this is happening continuously.
Anger is becoming a great problem these days. That is why I am so interested in writing this book. This book will focus on many aspects of anger and try to make you understand that how understanding, mere understanding can let the anger go.
Many people ask that for them it is very surprising to see me as if anger is a non-existent entity and then they ask how it is possible for me to control the anger. I always answer them that I have never controlled anger. And then they ask me, "If you don't control it then how do you behave stable; are you acting?" I have always told them that anger is not such a big issue as we feel about it and sometimes it is nature's gift that God has given to us.
Understanding the Anger
That is the reason to name this book as Anger Management not like other books where methods to control your anger are taught. Rather I am going to talk about anger in a manner to make it understandable because there are many aspects in life which can be solved easily by mere understanding.
Anger and you are not same thing; both are different and the thing which matters is that that which one is on the driving seat, you or the anger. If you are on the driving seat then you can never be in problem.
There can be two ways to express your anger: One that whenever anger comes express your anger as if anger is controlling you and throw your anger on the object of your anger. But this is a normal behavior and normally everyone behaves like this but this will ruin your image and will also affect your emotional behavior; and your nature becomes permanently like that and there will be a time that you would be angry at each and every thing, which would be dangerous. This is the type of behavior which is harming this world so much. This is the behavior that the problems like terrorism and hatred exist.
Other way is to suppress your anger; what your so called saints call it - to control your anger. But is it possible to control the anger. Anger is also a type of energy and it can't be controlled. If you try to control then you are doing nothing but accumulating this energy and which is going to explode one day in one form or the other and this is more dangerous than expressing. Controlling anger is like preventing a river to flow freely. The river will change the direction but will never stop flowing. The water can be accumulated and in future it can explode with more pressure. And this is happening with the so-called religious people. They are suppressing their natural emotions but they are going to explode one day in the form of terrorism or other violence in the name of religious or cultural justice or in the name of honor of family or society. This is because of suppressed energies. And this anger is more dangerous. A person can even become a murderer when explosion of this energy take place.
There could be a third way that you can sometimes express your anger and sometimes control it. This could be a safer side and most of the cool and calm people we are seeing are doing like that. But this can't also help to make your understanding about anger better. And to make your anger a servant of yours you need to understand it. And only a fair understanding can help you to manage your anger. And in this book I am trying to make you increase your awareness, so that you can understand the anger.
And there could be a forth way which is the solution but difficult to understand by everyone in the beginning. So we will discuss it later on. Before we proceed to the solution we should discuss some methods that can help everyone to reduce anger. And this reduction in anger will further help you understand your anger in a better way.