This is a Relationship and Self Development book, intended to help people better themselves and their relationships, with their Partner/Spouse and the people around them. It also helps them with their self esteem and to work on their weaknesses they face in everyday life, to overcome problems they may need help with.
This short book was written to create positive intentions within; it is here to help you in life. It will give you the down to earth advice you need in order to help you achieve a great relationship, which could also contribute to improving other important aspects of your life. Feel positive while reading it and spread the great message to all those around you. Life is in your hands and your mind is in the universe. Stay true to yourself and always look forward.
The message is in your hands!
It’s one of the best ways to be. The moment you enter this world you are devoted to yourself; carrying a unique purpose, nothing too big or to small. You are who you are and can be nobody else. Concentrate on the facts of who you are and disregard who people think you are which is merely their opinion of you, because you are beautiful, unique and only know yourself.
Have self-discipline. Wake up everyday and be grateful for your life, say it in your head or out loud “I am very grateful for waking up today”. You will then feel an inner sense of peace and with wonders your day will turn out good. When being original, people will always like you for who you are especially your other half or the person you are interested in, that in turn creates a positive image of you to the universe. Your inner state is merely what others cannot physically see of you but those who know you or get to know you will feel a sense of energy, which projects an outer image of how they see you.
Let me take you back to when I first started secondary school. I was the quiet one who sat in the middle of the classroom watching the funny students make funny remarks at the teacher. I wanted to be just like them: funny, cheerful and to stand out from the rest of them, so I attempted to crack silly jokes but nobody laughed. This was not the real me and had a negative affect on my image so I had stopped and continued to be that quiet little boy who sits in the middle of the classroom.
Whether you’re a man or woman, be true to yourself and do not worry what others think of you, because when your soul mate sets out to find you they will always look for originality, which is unique to you. Think about a time when you tried to be someone else, it could have been a pop artist, rapper, athlete or actor, you could never reproduce his or her exact persona because it’s not you. There is nothing wrong with being inspired and looking up to these great people who have achieved great things in life, but always remember to be yourself.
As you become aware of your unique identity, you will come to realise the world accepts you more for who you are and your surroundings become clearer. Life becomes easier and you will begin to feel happier, beautiful and satisfied with yourself. You may have noticed that I keep mentioning “yourself”; this is because your surroundings and the way you conduct yourself in public give people a chance to recognise the kind of person you are.
Your inner state is your thoughts, and your thoughts become actions, every little thought requires you to carry out an action whether it’s intentional or unintentional. So always remember to have a stable mind. The person who seeks an interest in you notices the way you conduct yourself, even if they are not aware of this, their subconscious mind will register your actions and will determine their thoughts of you.
Learn to manage your feelings because they will manifest in your life. Learn to keep a stable mental image and not to let your mind go, no matter what. Your heart will tell you whether you are being yourself or not; whether you are conducting yourself appropriately in the correct environment, be it in front of or to the person who you like/love, or the public people whom you may not know.
There have been many times I have stepped out of my own character and during this period I knew it wasn’t me and I knew the people knew it wasn’t me. Don’t cheat yourself out of proper conduct. If it isn’t you, don’t try. So be truthful to yourself, and you will be on the right path to creating that positive image.
Nobody wants someone who creates a negative image of somebody else. Have you ever come across a friend or relative who has a problem with their other half, or someone they are interested in, all because when in public they were acting different amongst others? This is what I mean by not being true to yourself and stepping out of character when being put into a change of scenery. This gives a false impression on what others will think of you including your other half or the person you like.
They will always say “he/she are not themselves when around others”, this goes against the whole rule of “Loyal conduct of oneself”. It is damaging to your own health and well being, and in turn has a negative affect on any relationship you are building with your partner. Ensure you stop and think before making a decision, to carry out an act or figure of speech causing damage to your relationship.