And what if one day … after you stop loving someone that you liked so, so much … you decide to replace that big whole from your soul with loving all the people from the timeline of your life?!
Today I believe that to understand the life itself we need to experience … love … in whatever form it might appear to us.
It sounds weird, or even as a total nonsense … but in the end … following the paths of life … I always realized that everything comes by itself.
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A man always wants more and more women … but a woman always makes the mistake of falling in love
Me and Nolene Sheppard are trying to write our perspectives … as a man … and as a woman … over this concept that we name love.
The challenge is even bigger as i am a married man and Nolene is a single woman … so we might even have contradictory views about the subject, but i believe that makes our writings even more interesting … or at least not so boring.
Today i somehow agree with many other important thinkers of the world that the human being has an important issue to solve on this planet and that is … dealing with the other souls … but also come closer to them … connect and why not enter in what we define as … love stories.
I also agree that i had over the years a large spectrum of ideas regarding the subject.
… totally contradictory ideas.
But i still meditate over the subject and probably i am much closer now of understanding the meaning of intimacy … and the connection itself between a man and a woman.
As a married man is maybe considered even immoral to talk about the subject and still let myself taste from the pleasure of being in a connection with another lady … but I gave myself the liberty to experience whatever life has to offer to me.
I spoke over the years with thousands of ladies … about life and with many of them even about love.
I had an obsession of knowing a woman perspective about connecting on the vibe of love … and i had listened so many versions that in the end i still don’t know what to think. Probably i don’t even know what to think about my ideas either … and i smile reading this … knowing that whatever we might think is not the absolute truth.
But i continued this journey … of finding out as much as i can about … love … knowing for sure that in fact … love is the gateway to the Spiritual Universe that we should explore more than we do it today.
All my thoughts … even if i define them as my own thoughts are probably mine … not more than 10% maximum.
Talking and exchanging so many ideas with so many people …. i am probably under the influence of many other souls that searched the absolute truth same as i do.
Recently … i was out in a coffee shop with Paula.
You see … she is a business woman … of huge success.
She is wealthy, extremely beautiful, elegant, very intelligent and has everything she ever wanted … except one thing … being in the right love story.
She smiles … while saying to me … “A man always wants more and more women … but a woman always makes the mistake of falling in love.
I do that all the time.
I am in love again … of a man that instead of being in connection just with me… is always searching more and more women.
I know he loves me … same as the other one that loved me … but cheating me again and again and again is actually destroying the beauty of our relationship.
Can you please make me understand why men are so idiots … being obsessed all the time to have more and more women?!
I simple can’t understand.
I just can’t!”
I started to laugh.
“Paula … how the hell can i define that to you if in fact i am suffering of the same disease … same as all those men?! Yes … we are idiots i think.
Instead of enjoying the connection and the love story itself …. we want new and new connections.
Most probably we are searching all the time that energy of beginning …. generated by the obsession of having a great vibe all the time.
We know that a new relationship is amazing when it starts … so maybe it’s not a new woman that we are searching on and on and on … but that amazing feeling.
A new connection … with intimacy implications is always making us feel alive … and a man has always this weird desire.
It might sound as a nonsense, but behind the nonsense is always something weird that reveals hidden … facts.”
“I will never be able to understand you … the men.”
“Well … my dear … i will never be able to understand you … the women.
But i accepted that from a long time … cause i love being connected to beautiful feminine souls.”
“Gabriel … what can i do to make him realize that he needs to stop cheating on me??
You wrote a lot about love and relationships.
I need a real advice from you.”
“Well … my dear Paula … the only thing left to do … with that idiot that you love so much … proving in the same time that you are so damn silly … is to disappear from his life.
When you will do that … he will realize the illusion of the other connections … and that the real path for him … is the love story you have together.
It will be tough … to suddenly cut the connection you have together … but otherwise … the so called awakening that you expect on his side … will never appear.”
I continued my talk with Paula for many more hours … and still don’t know if that is the best advice i could give to her … but at least now she has a much clear perspective about how a man … is usually thinking.
It was not useless drinking the coffee together … but even if it might look useless … i adored staying near Paula … in that coffee shop with such a great vibe.