Dating is very simple. You go somewhere and scope out those available. You select from them and make contact. You hold a 15 minute conversation with them and get phone numbers. You set up dates and go on dates. S-x is up to her but he is always prepared. You enjoy doing the rounds until one says "stand and deliver". Then you marry that person. What's so hard about that? What is hard is they tell you that you are kind and wonderful and yet, somehow, they married the next person they dated and not you. This book will try to remedy that situation.
Healthy relationships enrich your life, bring comfort to both parties, and are founded upon a base of sincerity, honesty, and trust. You have to like as well as love your partner. There is a mutual support system in place that balances the give and take where your weaknesses are offset by your partner’s strengths.
What you do not want is a relationship where you have to come up behind him/her and apologize or make excuses for your partner’s misbehavior, or get involved in a pandering quid pro quo situation where love/care/help is only given for a price. Abusive relationships are definitely out. The first slur, the first blow, the first bit of torment is the last one. Marriage is not meant to be a prison nor should a husband or wife be an emotional hostage to their spouse.
Dating is the process of learning about each other’s character. The initial physical attraction should endure, of course, but it is the compatibility of characters that will make or break a relationship. When it comes to marriage, only character counts. If you wish to marry the right person, the first time, for all time, this is the book for you.
I say this because this is precisely what I did. I married the right person, the first time, for all time. We remain happily married and crazy about each other despite the various hazards of married life, the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune”, and 30 years. When asked how long we have been married, we both answer “Not nearly long enough!” What’s more, we mean it! The following is how we did it.
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